Social Dilemma Solver 🧭

Pick your situation and step through the decision tree to get the right move for your exact context.

What's your dilemma?

🎁
Gift situation
What to give, how to give it
🍽
At a dinner
Toasting, ordering, paying
💼
Business meeting
Cards, hierarchy, disagreement
🙏
Making a request
Asking favours, getting help
😬
Face situation
Someone lost face, I lost face
🛑
Saying no
How to decline without offending
🤐
Getting no response
Radio silence, vague replies
Conflict situation
Disagreement, mistake, apology

How to Use This Tool

Select your situation from the 8 entry points, then answer each question to narrow down to your exact context. The tool asks 3-5 questions and gives you a specific, actionable answer — not generic advice.

Every path is grounded in real Chinese social norms, not Western assumptions about what "being polite" means. The answers are calibrated for business and social settings with mainland Chinese people.